Tuesday, August 8, 2017

But I Can't Seem To Find The Time.

     The title of this post was taken from the song For The First Time by The Script.

     Yesterday was a difficult day for me. Trying to juggle work and family is normally something I feel like I do an okay job at, but yesterday just seemed like an epic fail. I went to work at 6:30 and Tyler babysat the little boys because the Y was closed today. No worries, I'm paying her. Mason had 6th grade orientation from 12 - 1:30 and Sebastian's was from 12 - 1:45 and I had meetings before and during those times. Sebastian brought Mason for his orientation and I knew I could stay until 12:50. I thought no problem I can get most of it in and Sebastian will stay with him for the rest. It was a decent plan except his orientation started 20 minutes late. I was way beyond annoyed. It didn't instill much confidence in the new principal when she couldn't show up on time for the orientation she scheduled. Anyway, I met Mason's homeroom teacher, but Sebastian had to help him with his locker and meeting his other teachers. I knew Sebastian could handle his orientation by himself but it sucked not to be there. However a dear friend took these pictures and sent them to me. I cried just a little as I sat in my meeting.


Sebastian adding his handprints to the senior wall. I'm seriously crying as I type this.


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Sebastian and Megan (his girlfriend). I absolutely love her!


Such wonderful kiddos.

I am grateful for my friends that help me look out for my kids, the friends that help pick up my slack. Thanks Lynette for taking these.  I did managed to leave work in time to pick up Tyler for her sophomore orientation, but we had to take the little boys with us. The same little boys that hadn't napped. They were absolutely wild while we tried to walk around the school and meet her teachers. Tyler wanted to get her chrome book, but the line was so long and I had a training to get to and we just couldn't wait. She was so sweet and didn't fuss but I knew she would have wanted to stay and I knew she didn't get as much time to walk around as she would have liked. I picked up dinner and left to drive an hour and twenty minutes to a training. It was absolutely wonderful but I didn't walk back into the house until around 10:30 last night. Throughout all the chaos today, all that I asked of my kids, and the small sacrifices they made not once did they complain. The fact they didn't complain sort of makes me feel even worse. Have they become so accustomed to mom just not always being there that they don't bother to complain? In the end everything got done. Maybe not the way I had envisioned, but it got done. Hopefully that's all the kids will ever remember. 
      I'm hoping today goes just a little smoother for me. I'm hoping I can cut myself some slack and remember that time with my kids isn't always quantity it's quality. At one point yesterday as I was feeling pretty down and I pulled out my phone and flipped through a few recent pictures of the kids. It made me feel a little better. Hoping today will be easier.


Blake lined up some of his stuffed animals on the chairs and then picked a book to read to them.         I absolutely love this picture. It was such a cute moment.


We took the kids to the Jackson River Trail for a walk the other day. They enjoyed it. Sebastian was at work and didn't get to join us. 



Friday, August 4, 2017

If We're Gonna Stand, We Stand As Giants. If We're Gonna Walk, We Walk As Lions.

    The title of this post was taken from the song Lions by Skillet.

     July was such a busy month. I don't even know where it went. I went back to work on Monday, but I was in the school off and on before that just trying to organize things. Last week I think everything caught up to me and I got sick. I ran a fever for a few days and then I think it just turned into a cold, but for several days I was miserable. Blake is always the first child up for the day and we have a routine. I get him up and we sit on the couch under his favorite blanket for 10-15 minutes and watch cartoons. Then I fix him breakfast and he plays. We do this every single morning. He's a bit of a mommas boy. Anyway, when I was sick I didn't want to hold him because I didn't want him to get sick. He really didn't understand this and he cried and cried while yelling "snuggle mommy, snuggle mommy". It was pitiful. I tried to get him to sit next to me, but that wasn't good enough. He had to sit in my lap, under his favorite blanket. It was a long couple of days.



My poor child.

Anyway, teachers are officially back and Jaxon and Blake have been at the Y this week. They absolutely love it. Blake takes off running into his class and doesn't even look back. I've had a ton to do, but the first two days I worked really hard on unpacking and organizing my office. 




The kids start back next Wednesday. I love school starting and having a routine, but with it comes a lot of extras and an even crazier schedule. Tyler missed color guard practice yesterday because we both just forgot. Hopefully things will fall into place soon.





Monday, July 24, 2017

Got To See What Tomorrow Brings

     The title of this post was taken from the song Sing by My Chemical Romance.

     Sebastian had his senior pictures for the yearbook taken today. I didn't expect to get emotional about it but looking at him in his fake tux made my eyes leak. I snapped a quick picture before he sat down. He's such a handsome young man. 



Taken July 24, 2017

Several months ago I had a meeting at the school board office with the superintendent. As I sat in the waiting area I noticed old yearbooks on a bookshelf. I quickly picked up the ones from when Mike was in school and I snapped a picture of each with my phone. Here is Mike's senior picture. It was taken in 1994. Okay, for those that don't know he got kicked out of AHS that year and did a repeat senior year at Covington High School. This is his first senior year picture from Alleghany. I'll have to try and find the other one as well. I can't believe how much Sebastian looks like his dad. I can't wait to get the actual pictures.


Taken in August 1994

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

It's Only Been A Moment It's Only Been A Lifetime, But Tonight You're A Stranger Or Some Silhouette

The title of this post was taken from the song Silhouette by Aquilo.

     I renewed my teaching license five years ago in 2012. I remember then wondering what my life would look like in five years when I had to renew it again. I never would have guessed that I would be remarried and have two more adorable kids. I wouldn't have guessed that I would go back to school and be a BCBA. I don't know where I pictured myself, but it isn't where I am right now. I love my life even if it's not what I could have pictured. I wonder what my life will look like in five years when I have to renew it again. It will be 2022 then and I can't even begin to imagine.
     The 2016-2017 school year has ended and we are quickly approaching a new school year. Sebastian will be a senior, what?!, I can't even believe it. Tyler will be a sophomore, Mason will be in 6th grade, Jaxon will be in the IPop class, and Blake will start at the Y. So much change and so much will happen this year. I am making a change as well. I accepted the job as behavior analyst for our district. This is super super scary for me. My classroom is my safe space. I can go in my room at the start of the day, close the door, and most of the time if I don't want to I don't have to come out until the end of the day. I know my students. They are predictable in an unpredictable manner. I've spent years building relationships with them and now I'm stepping away and allowing someone else to come in and take over. I worry how much I'll be able to let go. My assistants know me, they know what I want before I even open my mouth. We are like a well oiled machine. This will be a change, not a bad change but a change nonetheless. This new job will force me to interact more with adults and adults can be scary :). 


My name next to my classroom. The classroom I've called home for 5 years.

 I cried as I walked out of my classroom on the last day. I still get to work with those students just not in the same capacity. Change is so hard for me though. On another note I'll have an office next year. What?! I'm not an office kind of person. I'm a play on the floor with my students kind of person. What's that quote "There's nothing permanent except change." or something like that. Here's to the last few weeks of summer break. I'm going to do my best to post more this year. I want to document Sebastian's senior year and all the funny things that happen in our day to day lives. I could write a book with just the funny things Jaxon says. 



Thursday, April 13, 2017

But My Words Like Silent Raindrops Fell

The title of this post was taken from the song The Sound Of Silence by Disturbed.

My Dearest Mike,    
     April 14th marks six years. Six years since I've seen you, heard your voice, or held your warm hand in mine. There are still so many things I want to tell you. So many things I want to share. So many questions. Why don't I ever feel like I have the answers I need? I cycle through so many emotions from moment to moment and nothing makes sense. I keep thinking about our early years together. I was 16 when we first met and barely 18 when we married. I had never met anyone like you and I wanted to be your everything because you were mine. As our relationship progressed and we got married we grew up together. We had no idea what we were doing, but most of the time we knew we would make it through together. And then one day 15 years later I was alone. My everything was gone. We had plenty of ups and downs through the years, but my constant companion through it all was just gone. I still feel your loss so deeply. Sometimes I yell at you. I yell at you for leaving me, for leaving us. It's completely irrational, I know it is. You wouldn't want this for me and I cry over that as well. You would be so mad at me for not dealing with this better. I've written this stupid post nine times and I still feel like nothing I say matches the whirlwind of emotions I'm feeling inside. Please watch over us. The kids miss you. We talk about you all the time because I'm determined they will never forget. Sebastian is a carbon copy of you and sometimes when he hugs me it's almost as if you were there...I can't do this tonight. I'll just go cry myself to sleep.
           
                                        Love,
                                           Mel




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