Sunday, February 12, 2012

It Will All Be All Right, I’ll Be Home Tonight

     The title of this post is from the song Home by Michael Buble.

     I'm horrible at making decisions, and this is why I'm not good at multiple choice questions. I always second guess the answer I pick first, and then I spend crazy amounts of time trying to figure out if I'm right or if it's a trick question. I'm like this with other things in my life too, so I often come off as indecisive to other people. 
     Friday, my dad and I went over to meet with someone from the company that's going to build our home. We are still working out the loan details, and hopefully I will know something more certain at the beginning of the week. Overall I know what I want for this house, and I've blogged about it, 2,500 sq ft, 4 bedrooms, all on one floor, a wheelchair ramp, and an open floor plan. The problem is that those specifications are not the only things I have to make decisions about. Dad walked into the office Friday with a list of 21 questions to ask. I'm sure that they have never had someone be as thorough as my dad. I'm so incredibly grateful he is here to help me ask the questions I didn't even know needed to be asked. We are going back Thursday to go over some more things, and the guy said that I could starting picking out things if I wanted, like cabinets, countertops, and things like that. He said expect to spend three hours picking stuff out...THREE HOURS OF DECISION MAKING?! Say what?! I mean I know that it's important, and I know that I need to pick what I want, but my goodness. How am I supposed to make a decision on what color vinyl siding I want, knowing that once they order it I can't change my mind. What if two weeks from now my mood has changed and I don't like what I originally picked out? This might be a really long process! It's also going to be a bit of give and take. I'm going to give up some of the extras that I don't really need in order to get the things I do need. We will see.
    I am trying to figure out a way to incorporate Mike into the building of this house. I think I'm going to see about having the kids put their handprints somewhere in the concrete for the porch when it is poured. I thought about adding something of Mike's, but I don't know what. It sounds weird I know. I know that doing something like this is not what will make him part of our home, but I want him to be a part of the process. I'll have to think about it.


Kate said...

Melanie, PLEASE incorporate something of Mike into the new house...maybe plant a favorite plant or flower...or even a tree in memory of that way we can think about him as the tree grows :) Love you all!!!!!

Unknown said...

I have a hard time with decision making too! Mine is because I have a tendency to be a perfectionist. While I'm trying to overcome that, it sneaks into most everything in my life. I'm always afraid I won't make the perfect decision. Often I'll just pass it off to others wherever I can so I don't have to be the one who chose wrong. I'm working on it, but it's a hard thing to be decisive! I wish you luck in making all your decisons! I've been there before building a house!

Ashlie McBride said...

Maybe, you could use his CDs as a form of wall art, or something to that effect. Chris said he had a lot of them. Like, I'm not saying to ruin the value of them. Just maybe frame them and whatnot. Just a few in each room? That way, if by chance you decide to move, you can take them with you. Or Tyler, Sebastian, and Mason would be able to take one with them when they're all grown up and move? Just a thought. (: We love you, dear.