Monday, April 9, 2012

Here I Am Once Again Feeling Lost, But Now And Then

     The title of this post was taken from the song Make it Shine by Victoria Justice.
Mandaly and I are taking the girls to see Victoria Justice in concert this August. We bought them VIP passes so they get to meet her. They are beyond excited!

     I'd take a picture to show you, but it might cause someone to want to clean my house while I'm away today ;). Sebastian is asleep on one couch, and Tyler on the other. Their glasses sit on the floor next to the them along with...wait?! Is that the TV remote that's been lost for a week?! Funny that it magically appears on the night I let them sleep on the couch to watch a movie. Hmmmm.....Anyway the floor also contains their DSis, Wii remotes, chargers for various electronics, and a half eaten chocolate Easter bunny. My coffee table has three cups on it, DO NOT tell my sister that they are NOT sitting on coasters. Now, before you think "Oh my goodness!" The house was relatively clean yesterday. All the floors were swept and mopped, dishes were done, kid's rooms were clean and most of the laundry was washed, dried, and put away. As I sit here I'm just not sure how it stays so messy. Sure I make my kids clean and put stuff away, it just never stays that way. My kiddos will clean, but it's often a struggle with the younger two, and I get some teenage attitude with the older one. I have to ask them to do everything. It just makes sense to me that if you get something out you put it away. Okay, okay so maybe I created this monster by not making them do it from the time they were young. I will admit that this last year I've been pretty relaxed on stuff like this because in the grand scheme of things does it matter that they left their cup out. I'd rather put it in the kitchen myself, and save that battle for when it matters. Maybe I'm enabling them to much. I also realize that beyond the fact I don't want to fight with them, I often do things because it's just easier if I do it myself. Allowing them to make their own mistakes takes patience, and I have very little of that left at the end of the day. I really need to get organized. I need to find some kind of balance that is going to work for us. This is not working, it was chaotic with two parents around, but it is pure insanity with just me here. I really need to make this a goal. I need to restructure and simplify my life. On that note I'm going to wake my sleepy monsters, and get them ready to go shopping for summer clothes. 

Please feel free to share any tips for organization and scheduling!


beth said...

My dearest Mel...

Just say new day new rules. Today we are going to start with everyone putting their own dishes in the kitchen when they are done. After a few days add something else. You are a super woman but inless i have missed the american flag boustier you are not Wonder Woman. You have three kids that adore their mother. Tell them you need help. Its honest and not something they can easily argue against. Love you

Unknown said...

What Beth said! Also, I found that when I was parenting alone, staying on top of things was much easier than letting it get to out of hand...though sometimes it did that too. :)So if I left a room to go to another room I would take anything that didn't belong with me. I folded laundry as it came out of the dryer and put it away, I emptied the dishwasher every morning and then loaded it throuhout the day and ran it at night. Made sure the girls rooms were clean (they helped) before bed, etc. It really helped things to not get too overwhelming. With older kids I bet you could definitely get them to help you out more. My favorite rule we have is "Pick up after yourself". It's still a battle with my girls, but they are small and they're learning. They know it's a rule, though, and I have to remind them but they usually do it because they know it's expected of them. In the end, though, I figure as long as the house is sanitary, it can be messy. Sometimes there are just more important things. :) Take care!!